Unplanned Pregnancy

unplanned pregnancy?

Question: i was just wondering, i've had a lot of friends and girls i know get pregnant and i was wondering if you've had an unplanned pregnancy, was it because it was your fault or not? how many of you became pregnant because of failure in birthcontrol or condoms? how many of you became pregnant because you didn't use the birthcontrol correctly? and how many of you became pregnant just out of stupidity or ignorance? note that i've said UNPLANNED! which excludes women that are pregnant because they planned it. and i used those two terms because ignorance means a lack of knowledge or education (so it's no offensive if you're smart) and i said "out of stupidity" because, let's face it, some people out there are really stupid when it comes to protection!

Answer: i am currently pregnant with a suprise baby. it wasnt out of ignorance or stupidity, it was for medical reasons that for a year and a half, we didnt have to use any form of protection, then within a month of prescription medication, we got pregnant. I cant take BC and yes, we sometimes forgot the condom, but its not like we didnt want children, we just didnt think we were going to have one this soon. A lot of pregnancies are unplanned due to improper use of bc control pills or condoms breaking, or yes pure stupidity, but this is a situation where, our religous background is completely against it, but we are taking responsibility for our actions and are excited and dont believe we are ignorant or acted stupid. There isnt anything wrong with it. Its like people saying that its wrong to have a baby out of wedlock, more and more people are doing it,( not only poor people, but rich people too)because marriage doesnt hold as high of a value to people now a days as it used to.

Unplanned pregnancy?

Question: I am about 6 weeks pregnant and it was unplanned. I have told the father about the pregnancy and he was adament that I have an abortion, however I have very strong opposition to abortions for personal and religious reasons, so now I've decided to raise this child on my own. I am wondering if I should contact the father again to see how he'd like to be involved or is it already a lost cause???

Answer: I am opposed to abortion as well, but I don't think you should write off the guy forever because he wanted you to have one. Some men just don't understand. He might grow up and realize his mistake. He needs to be given the chance to be involved in the life of his child. Prepare yourself for the possibility that he doesn't want anything to do with the baby, but still give him the chance. It doesn't mean you have to be really friendly with him or hang out with him yourself, but your child deserves to know his father if that possibility is available.

Unplanned Pregnancy?

Question: I am 15 weeks pregnant and am still waking up in the middle of the night thinking and thinking. I am so uneasy about the reality ahead of having a sleep4you.com/sleep.php/84/baby.html'>baby. As it was unplanned, I still don't feel ready. Are you ready when the sleep4you.com/sleep.php/84/baby.html'>baby arrives and nothing else matters? How can I come across this hump? How do I feel right about it? Thanks, I love my sleep4you.com/sleep.php/84/baby.html'>baby, my mind is just working overtime and I am stressing out. I am the youngest of 4 girls, could it have anything to do with that? Only one sister has children and the other two don't. Maybe I feel like it should be one of them and not me??? Not sure.... Please only constructive answers, this means a lot to me.

Answer: When your baby comes it won't matter. With my first pregnancy I was 18 and had switched birth control. During the switch in when I got pregnant, and we definatly weren't planning on it! My boyfriend was defiantly not excited and I was totally stressed out about it. For the first few weeks, like you i stayed awake at night and worried about how I would make all of it work, and was i really ready to have a baby. Then a few weeks into my pregnancy I almost miscarried and as I sat in the ER waiting room crying i realized how much I already loved that little baby in my belly and didn't even know it. As your pregnancy progresses and you feel your baby move and your belly gets bigger it will be easier to be excited. Now 2 years later my boyfriend and i are married and are at the end of our second (unplanned) pregnancy. We love out son to death and wouldn't change a thing. We decided early in my first pregnancy that god doesn't make mistakes. There was a reason that he gave us that baby when he did. And there is a reason that he gave us this baby when he did. Hang in there it will get better. Remember that you are extreamly hormonal and your emotions are everywhere!! lol. Try and find a friend that will loving listen to your worries w/o judging or brushing them off. Or try keeping a journal or something. That really helps me just to write down what I'm stressing about, even if it doesn't go anywhere. your at least getting it out and that takes a little of the weight off. And don't think that any of this makes you any less of a mother. You'll be great!